I can't believe I haven't put anyone on blast for over a year and a half! I love documenting these stories because I seriously could not make them up.
Sunday, I went to a charity golf event. I had a blast. I met a lot of people and unbeknownst to me, a lot of people I went to high school with. A few Facebook friend requests were exchanged with some of the people from the event.
Yesterday, I got an email from one of the guys. He sent me a message on Facebook and we went back and forth and then things started to get a little flirtatious. Naturally, being the stalker that I am, I had already checked out his Facebook and it said he was single. After realizing that he had several kids (all very young and clearly all related) and was a few years younger than me, I found it odd that he was single. After looking through pictures on Facebook, I figured out who the mom is to his children. I clicked on her profile and both her profile picture and cover picture are of their family (him included). Her relationship status was either blocked, or empty because it didn't say anything. We ended up exchanging numbers in the meantime and started texting. I finally hinted around to his relationship status. He told me that him and the girl live together, love their children very much, and they were the best of friends. I asked if he was married and he said "No, ma'am." I asked him if his children's mom read our text messages if she would be upset. He said, "She's a woman. So, yes." Whether she's a woman or not, that was the only answer I needed. Don't get me wrong, I had no intention of pursuing it further even IF they are really just friends. Their cohabitation is just not something I want to insert myself into. The fact that both of her pictures on Facebook are of their family confirmed she's still invested in this relationship. Needless to say, I stopped texting him and deleted the thread on my phone.
I had dinner last night with a girlfriend and told her the story. I said, part of me wants to put a status update on Facebook telling people that online dating hasn't worked for me, I don't go out much, but I'm looking for a single guy and does anyone know of someone. She has a boyfriend, but all of his friends are married. She texted a girlfriend of hers who knows a lot of people and her response was that she knew a few single guys, but wouldn't set me up with them. She texted another girlfriend and she had the same response.
It's hard to have hope when things like this happen.