Thursday, May 10, 2012

Language Barrier

Since my sister is getting married, we've been on the hunt for bridesmaid dresses.  I found a really cute one on eBay.  According to the measurement chart, I wasn't sure if I should order the dress based on my bust or my waist size.  So, I emailed the Seller. 

Me: Hello - My sister is getting married and so we want to purchase three of the orange dresses. Wanted your advice though on the sizes. For example for me, my bust size would match up with the large. But, my waist and size of dress I wore for another wedding would have me as an XL or even higher. What do you suggest we base our sizes on? Thank you, Rachel

Seller: I'm so sorry that,you can check our size measurements before you buy it.Thank you so much for your interesting.  Have a nice day!  sincerely yours
               Didn't realize the Seller was from China : (
Me: What? That's what I'm asking. When looking at the size measurements, should we look more at the bust or waist?
Seller: Hi,my friend.For your size,please choose our size XL.the Bust of the dress is strechable but the waist isn't strechable.Please just write us back if you have any question,we will try our best to solve that. Have a great day! Sincerely yours
Not going to lie.  I was a little worried with what the Seller's response was going to be.  Thankfully, she answered me. 

Monday, May 7, 2012

Dash of Sass

If you don't follow The Single Woman on Twitter or Facebook, I highly suggest you do.  Even if you're not single, she still gives really good advice and has some great quotes.  Today, she posted a new Dash of Sass.  Not sure why, but it brought tears to my eyes.  Maybe because she said every single thing that I think of myself.  Here's what she wrote.

"A few times a month, I’ll get the obligatory comment from someone on Twitter, usually a guy, usually someone who doesn’t follow me, and usually someone who thinks they’re being incredibly witty, saying something along the lines of: “The Single Woman is single for a reason. Ignore her!” There are so many things wrong with this comment, and this mindset. First of all – if their life is really so great, and so evolved, and so gleefully happy…why the heck are they taking time out of that fabulous life to heckle someone they don’t follow, don’t understand the heart of their message, and don’t even know?!? It’s baffling to me. Second of all…did they even take the time to consider what they were saying and WHY? “Single for a reason.” And this is so enlightening, HOW? I mean, everybody is what they are for a reason. You don’t just accidentally become single any more than you accidentally become married. But why is it that people seem to assume that unlike marriage, being single is NOT a choice, but a curse laid upon those of us who ARE single because we’re inherently flawed in some way? When did that become the prevailing mindset? I would argue that with the out-of-control divorce rates and miserable marriage epidemic…perhaps us single folks have figured out something the married ones haven’t: That it’s OKAY not to settle for marriage just because it’s the comfortable choice. Just because you’ve been dating someone for so long, you have to either break up or get married, so you chose to get married by default. Or just because it seems like it’s the thing to do once you hit age 28 and beyond. Maybe, just maybe, us single folks are single because we are brave enough to face the glorious unknown of the unaccompanied journey. Did you ever think of THAT, hecklers?

Since Mr. Wiseguy on Twitter (and Ms. Wisegirl, as I have had female hecklers, as well) seems to think that there is some deep, dark reason behind my singleness…I decided I might as well, here and now, solve the mystery of why I remain unmarried.

I am still single because…

•I haven’t met Mr. Right, and I deserve better than Mr. Wrong.

•I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it.

•I have high standards, and so far no one has met them.

•I’m figuring out ME before I worry about WE.

•I love the freedom of being able to do what I want, when I want.

•I’d rather be someone who’s single than someone who settled.

These are just a few reasons why I am still single. I encourage you to make your own list, and to not apologize for it or justify it to anyone. We all have our own reasons for being single, most of which have very little to do with the reasons that society as a whole seems to want to thrust upon us. Remember: Love is not an area of life that you want to say that you “settled for.” Hold out for the best with no regrets. At the end of the day, there is nothing braver than someone who would rather walk alone than with someone who is unworthy of them."


It's no secret that I have tried online dating.  It's also no secret that it has never worked out well for me. 

Recently, I thought I may have found a guy who I could actually start to care for.  Unfortunately, it didn't pan out that way. 

I never wanted to be that girl who didn't trust a guy because of how she was treated in the past.  It's not the new guys fault for the way someone in my past treated me.  I found that to be very difficult to do this time around.  I questioned every little thing he said or did.  And, I had every right to question every little thing he said or did.  I think when I find someone who is genuinely wanting to get to know me, I won't have those questions. 

Totally off the subject, I recently watched Jim Carey's "Yes Man."  I thought it was going to be about a guy who doesn't know how to say no to anyone and is pushed around.  I guess I just made that up in my mind.  However, the movie is actually about a guy (Jim Carey) who never says yes.  He decides that he's going to start saying yes to everything and starts to find out that good things can happen if you do say yes.  I don't think I finished the whole movie, but it made me think.  What if I started saying yes to everything. I'm always telling people no I don't want to do something.  I'm wondering if I start to say yes, if things could start to happen. 

Over the weekend, I found out that the comedian, Kevin Hart is coming to Fort Wayne in June.  This has literally been a wish of mine to see him live.  I'm pretty proud of myself.  Instead of not going because I don't have anyone to go with, I had my parents buy me a ticket for my birthday and I am going alone.  I refuse to not go, because I don't have anyone to go with.

I'm hoping soon, I have my Oprah "ah ha" moment.