Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Friendships

I wish I had all the answers, or knew someone who did.

I truly believe that I'm a good person. I, of course, have my flaws and am far from perfect. I think I have a good heart and truly care about the people in my life. So, then why do people keep walking out of my life?

I think back to high school, and the four girls I hung out with. We were inseparable, and now I don't speak to any of them. Why, I have no idea. When I was in college, there were three girls the same year I started that I hung out with, and then another girl who started when I was going for my bachelors. Girl 1: I stayed friends with all throughout college and even after. There were times we didn't talk for a while, but we stayed friends for a long time. Actually up and until 2008. She said some things (that I won't go in to) that were unforgettable. I've forgiven her, but I can't forget. I also think we've gone in two different directions and grew apart. Girl 2: I have always been friends with. We are still friends, but speak very rarely. She's very busy with work and her family. Although we don't speak often, I know she'll always be in my life. Girl 3: This friendship has had more drama than any friendship I've probably ever had. We went about a year without speaking and then bumped into each other, and "rekindled" our friendship. However, now, we never hang out and also speak very rarely. For some reason, this girl always has a way of making me feel like complete crap. Like, I'm just some horrible person. I really think I've grown up a lot since college and have changed so much that we'll never be close again. Girl 4: We were friends while in school, but I don't remember really hanging out outside of school. After graduation we grew apart and stopped speaking. Then in 2005, I got a job where she worked and we became close again. She's now my best friend in the world.

I'm not sure when it started, but I've been so closed off when it comes to friendships. If you say or do something that makes me mad, I'm so quick to write people off. I think I just tell myself that it's easier than trying to fight with someone. And, where has this all left me? Alone.

Without getting into all the details, recently, a very close girlfriend of mine accused me of doing (or feeling) something that is absolutely not true. And, as a result of that, our friendship is no longer.

I remember when an old boss of mine was getting married, and she was telling me about all her bridesmaids she was going to have. She said she had girls from all stages of her life in her wedding - childhood friends, high school friends - college friends - current friends, etc. I thought to myself, "wow, the only girls I would want in my wedding are my two sisters."

They say people make their own luck. Is that true? Why would I want to continue to have bad luck in work and my personal life? Am I at fault for all these friendships going wrong? What did I do to cause myself to be all alone?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not the most open or friendliest person. I do feel that once I get to know someone and they get to know me, that my heart opens up. But, why is it that all the people I've cared about are no longer in my life?

Like I said, I wish I had all the answers or knew someone that did, because I would love to know what I've done wrong.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Fashion, Beauty and a Few Other Random Tips

I die for clothes, accessories, purses and I'm becoming more interested in shoes (heels to be more specific). I was the girl who would rather buy a new purse than a new pair of shoes. I really don't like wearing shoes, and socks even more than that. But, hey, they are a necessity in life. I recently read "Kardashian Konfidential" and now I'm reading Lauren Conrad's "Style." I've picked up some great tips, and thought I would share with you, plus then I've always got them on my blog to look back on.
  • I'm uber organized when it comes to everything in my life. That being said, my closet is not an exception. Both Kardashian Konfidential and Style had chapters about organizing your closet. I didn't realize it was a topic to be talked about. I've helped family and friends organize their closets. I was shocked to read that I do a lot of what the Kardashians and Lauren Conrad suggest as great organizing tips for a closet. Go me!! Having an organized closet is going to allow you to see what you've got. You don't want to forget about those great new jeans you bought because your closet is a disaster. It's also good to clean out your closet every six months. And, always always always remember to take care of your clothes.
Determine a place for everything. Arrange everything according to color, and within each color, arrange each piece from light to dark (I organize my shirts from short sleeved to long sleeved, which then are arranged by color). Buy matching hangers. I use the plastic ones that you can buy at Target in bulk. Don't keep those metal hangers around that you get from the dry cleaner. They are not good for your clothes, and most dry cleaners will recycle them (go green!). When hanging up your clothes, make sure they're all facing the same direction. If you're folding your clothes to put on a shelf, put the bulkiest item on the bottom - otherwise you'll have teetering piles. Jewelry: Use dividers in drawers - use a jewelry tree - hang necklaces on a bed post (I have a huge closet, so I hang my necklaces up, which is really helpful from keeping them from getting tangled). You can also buy jewelry organizers. I got mine for $1.00 at Target. I separate my bracelets in that. Maurices also sells them for $20.00, and they come with a lot of storage space. For scarfs you can fold them up neatly and put in a drawer (same with belts). I have my scarves and belts on a belt hanger.
  • I'm obsessed with taking care of my feet. I have horrible feet so I spend a lot of time putting lotion on and exfoliating them.
Kardashin Konfidential (pg. 158) - Khloe says she slathers Vaseline on her feet once a week, and then covers them with socks for about an hour. 
  • I doubt I'm the only one who struggles with keeping their whites white. I can bleach them every time, and they still never seem to get white. Well, here's some tips...
Style (pg. 35) - Apparently, there's some chemical reaction between sweat, deodorant, and cotton that creates those yellow stains. Lauren says, "skip the bleach since it doesn't help at all here." (Uh, who knew? Cause I didn't).  
  • Soak the stained area in hydrogen peroxide (dilute it in water if you like).
  • Put one or two aspirin into the washing machine, but wait until it's full of water.
  • Soak the t-shirt in a solution of vinegar and water (1 tablespoon of vinegar to 1 cup of water).
  • I usually don't have trouble finding pants that fit me length wise. If they come in long, regular and short, I usually opt for regular, and they'll look perfect with heels. I think when I was in my 20's, I always opted for long, but let's be real; it's not appealing to have your pants dragging on the ground. I have had problems with the hem of my dress pants coming undone, and then I go to that iron on tape. I should suck it up and take them to a tailor, but I refuse to spend the money and the time. So, here's a tip for hemming your pants in an easy way.
Style (pg. 26) - Put the pants on to figure out exactly where you want the hem to hit. Use a tape measure to get the desired length. Take the number of inches you need to lose and divide by two. After taking the pants off, with one fold, cuff them. The length of the fold should be one half of the number of inches you need to lose. Stitch around the fold directly below the original hem - you want to be as close to this line as possible.  Flip the fold so it's on the inside of the pant leg and iron them down. There should be an invisible hem at the bottom of the pant, so it looks like there's no break in the fabric.
  •  Controlling static in your hair.

Style (pg. 167) - Gently rub a dryer sheet over your head, or spray a product like Static-Cling into all of your hats and any other pieces of clothing that cause static. 
  • Washing your hair.
I remember the first time someone told me they didn't wash their hair everyday. I thought they were nuts!! If I didn't wash my hair everyday, it was so greasy and heavy feeling. When I became unemployed in 2008, I didn't always have a reason to go out, so I wouldn't wash my hair everyday. Sometimes, I would go a few days without washing it. Strangely enough, you train your hair to not be so greasy if you don't wash it everyday. Your scalp will produce an appropriate amount of oil once it knows what to expect. I contribute my hair being as long and as healthy as it is to not washing it everyday. I'm also fortunate enough to have completely stick straight hair, so I can opt to not blow dry my hair and it'll still look great. I don't have to flat iron my hair either. What I'm saying is that the less you can do to your hair the healthier it's going to be. If you don't have anywhere to be one day, let your hair go. Plus, when you do wash it, it'll style so much better and feel great.
  • Did you know pocket placement makes a difference?
Style (pg. 23) - Smaller pockets on the back of your pants will make your butt look bigger and pockets that are too close together will make it look wider.
Lauren Conrad & the Kardashian Sisters' Go-To Websites:
shopbob.com
urbanoutfitters.com
netaporter.com
topshop.com
habituallychic.com
babycenter.com


Both of these books come with a lot of advice about clothing, accessories, shoes, makeup, hair, helpful packing tips, etc.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Cierra is a Kardashian

If you know me, you know I'm obsessed with the Kardashian family. I recently got their book "Kardashian Konfidential." The girls asked their fans to take a picture of people reading their book. I took a picture of Cierra laying on my lap while reading. Well, the picture made Kourtney Kardashian's blog. How funny is that? You can find the picture here. There are several pictures, but it's the one of a cat laying on a pink princess blanket. Too funny.